Behind the Scenes: Introducing Priority & Finley House!
November 27, 2014
Financial literacy & the Cost of Addiction: Q&A with Traci Keen
December 15, 2014
Achieving Peace & Success in Sober Living Environments
January 22, 2015
At Finley & Sage we strive to maintain a sober and stable environment for our residents. While no one is perfect, we have formulated guidelines in order to create a structure that keeps people sober.
The blessing upon us to move into these amazing homes -- on top of convenient locations & great amenities -- is the opportunity to help people get their lives back. We are here to learn from our mistakes & recover our lives, not carry old stories around.
Upon move-in, residents agree to follow "house rules" designed to keep everyone accountable. Bearing in mind that a resident breaking their sobriety has a negative effect on each & every resident in the house, we ask residents to make a pledge to stay sober while they stay in our homes. Residents and their guests are not allowed to be under the influence of alcohol or drugs while at our homes, and are asked to leave if it is suspected that they are using.
The attendance of 12-step meetings & associating with healthy people is strongly encouraged. We offer rides to any activity that supports recovery & a stable lifestyle.
The pledge also involves living in a peaceful manner -- no escalating disputes or violence is allowed in our homes. We recognize the patterns of domestic abuse--it goes from verbal to physical. We do not underestimate the fact that character pathology often comes in conjunction with substance abuse. Usually deeper issues are being masked if someone shows a lack of positive communication or general respect for others. We are not here to cater to individuals who blame others for poor behavior or expect us to ignore mistreatment in consideration for their feelings over other people's feelings.
Our standard of three strikes gives residents a chance to stay, but after three strikes we ask them to leave so that they do not disrupt the well being of people who are fighting hard for stability. Sometimes we are able to break through obstacles before three strikes. There's always scenarios where an addict will refuse and go back out on a "run" -- letting go is tough -- but letting go is best because it allows us to maintain our fundamental values. Upon the second or third strike, we typically begin seeking an inpatient treatment center or detox space for the resident to spin dry if they are not able to maintain stability.
Our bottom line is happiness, peace & quiet! Thinking inspirationally about the words Finley spoke on his last day alive...he said he was at a point in his life where he had amassed a great group of friends who were going to do "philanthropic sh*t and save the planet." By helping people become free of addiction, we are saving one person's life at a time.